When I first watched the film Bridget Jones a few years ago, I chuckled at the reference of a woman’s biological clock. Tick tock tick tock. The idea that our future family plans have an expiry date has always amused me; it seemed like a myth generated from chic flicks. However, as my 23rd birthday looms I started to notice something worrying, my social media news feeds are full of statuses about engagements, buying houses and sonogram images. When did 23 become old? When did I transform into a real grown up? I feel like social media is peer pressuring me. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and we do not live together but have I have a large share of his wardrobe, six hangers and shoe space to be exact, and several homely items such as my toiletries and slippers. I feel pretty happy with this, in fact it feels like an achievement as I haggled for my six hangers. However, after being bombarded with due dates and coupley DIY updates I start to question whether we should be in a different place. Should I start saving for a mortgage and bookmark to rent web pages? Instead of buying gossip magazines should I pick up a copy of the latest baby names?
Thankfully, the beauty of people constantly updating everyone on their lives via online sites is that you see the bad as well as the good. My primary school friend that became engaged on her 21st birthday is now single and is forced to move back home, the couple that bought a house have burst water pipes that they cannot afford to fix. I am not wishing bad against those who have sped ahead, but it gives me a sense of perspective. No matter what stage in your relationship that you are in, there are always ups and downs. Whether just dating or engaged with a bun in the oven, you can never afford to stop working on your relationship. I read an interview with Gwyneth Paltrow in which she said that she falls in and out of love with her husband but the key is to keep going in a relationship. I completely agree. You may never be in the exact same place as your friends, but so long as you fight to keep the spark in your dating life then everything is going to fall into place.