How Could He Do This To Me?

cheating boyfriendWhy did he do it? Was it because of me? Have I gained weight? Is it because she is prettier than me?


These are just some of the questions that we ask ourselves after being betrayed by somebody that we love/loved. You never feel worse about yourself than after discovering that a partner has been unfaithful to you, and how could you not? The thought that somebody who you trust has gone to another behind your back is as humiliating as it is hurtful.


Ryan Giggs, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Wayne Rooney, Hannah Waterman: it seems we can’t turn anywhere without stories about celebrities playing away from home. It’s a sad state of affairs when a celebrity section of a newspaper pretty much is full of stories about infidelity, even sadder when you think about how many have been covered up thanks to these super-injunctions.


I never thought I would hear myself say this, but I feel sorry for Imogen Thomas. Yes she did a stupid, selfish thing having an affair with a married man but let us not forget that she wasn’t the married one. Ever since this story broke she has dominated the headlines and had some pretty awful things said about her without having the option to speak out and defend herself. Even though it was only officially announced yesterday that Ryan Giggs was the married footballer at the centre of this, I have yet to come across an article that trashed him to the same level that Imogen has been trashed.


We have a tendency when cheated on, to blame the ‘other’ man or woman. In my experience I found myself hating the girl with whom my boyfriend had cheated with more than I hated my boyfriend, who was the one who actually hurt me. I hardly knew this girl but all of a sudden she was the worst person on the planet to me. She was suddenly at the centre of my self-esteem issues as she represented everything I was not; after all he had gone to her to get something that he obviously couldn’t get from me.


Some time has passed and I can now see that it was his fault entirely, he was the one in a relationship and chose to play away. I just hope that the press come to the same conclusion during this series of events although I doubt it.


We’ll never fully understand why people cheat, it’s been going on since time began and will continue as long as human beings inhabit the earth. There is one thing that we can be sure of though and that is the fact that it can happen to anybody whether you are fat or thin, blonde or brunette, rich or poor.


Sandra Bullock’s ex-husband, Jesse James, has recently spoken of his infidelity claiming that he only cheated on the gorgeous, talented and funny actress because he did not feel ‘worthy’ of her… Quite frankly a pathetic excuse in my opinion, but I am quite happy to believe that if anybody were to betray me like that again I could hold my head high and think that he simply was not ‘worthy’ of me.