Definition: As Wiki defines it- The ‘quarter life crisis’ is a period of life following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the late teens to the early thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult.
To sum it up in simple words: It’s a feeling that I’m-Twenty-Something-Only-And-I-Screwed-Up-My-Life-Already.
It’s an unavoidable phase of life which most of us goes through. Of course, only if you live long enough!
For some, it’s just like a downhill race. You get over it in no time, that too without pedaling your cycle.
Whereas for others, it may be as tough as pushing a giant Koala to the top of a mountain. It’s dreadful and tiresome. Up to an extent that people start considering themselves as the most unlucky and cursed creature on this planet.
Symptoms: Following are the few symptoms found in the people suffering from this syndrome.
1. Suddenly you realize that you are neither a teenager nor an adult.
2. Friends are no less than Almighty – You know they exist, somewhere. It’s just that you can’t see them.
3. You are no longer embarrassed about anything. Whether it’s the breaking of the heels in the mid of a road, caught sleeping in the office or caught staring at the people. None of this bothers you. In fact, it’s embarrassing to feel embarrassed anymore.
4. You look at the group of giggling teenagers and label them as ‘Immature and Childish’.
5. When you actually start believing that ‘Gymming’ is a stress-buster.
6. You become a person who has a hell lot of free time. After cleaning the bathroom and doing the laundry, you still have the time to catch up with the daily soaps on the idiot box.
7. You think it’s Tuesday today, but it’s not. It’s not even Wednesday. It’s Thursday already.
8. You feel more comfortable eating alone.
9. Everyone around you is committed. In fact ‘Happily’commited!
10. Okay, what about those heart-shaped cushions? How can people buy such stupid gifts?
11. You scroll your phonebook up and down continuously. You gaze at each number, for minutes, for hours, but you don’t call anyone.
12. You have nothing ‘Good’ to think about when you go to sleep at night. All you can think of is the puppy who lives next door.
13. The feeling of being lonely haunts you constantly. You lose your confidence at an exponential rate and the fear of being-left-behind-others houses in your heart.
Cure: It will be a white lie if I say that jumping around in a track-suit or partying hard with your not-so-good friends will help you in getting over this crisis. Things like these may make you feel good temporarily but the feeling that My-Life-Sucks-So-Badly will come running as soon as you find your way to bed at night.
The best way to get rid of this un-welcoming feeling is to Love yourself.
Cherish what you already have and work for what you want to achieve. Stop cursing yourself and your life by repeatedly saying that Oh! I hate myself. I hate my life.
Knowingly or unknowingly, you DO love yourself more than anyone because only two kinds of people can love others more than themselves- people who are receiving an equal or more amounts of love in return and people who are as great as Lord Jesus and Mother Teresa.
The rest of us are a bit too selfish to love others more than ourself. And I think there is nothing wrong in doing that. After all, this is your life and you have all the right to love yourself. Nobody can stop you! Then why to waste the most desirous years of your life in hating yourself? Why to choose to live in a misery?
So, just straighten up your backbone, pull back your shoulders, chin slightly up, and with a pinch of smile say this out loud-I’m special. I’m loved.
Repeat it, until you believe it.
Everything works out as long as you don’t hate yourself for being what you are. If you find it impossible to love your life then don’t hate it either.
“All the best” to all the people who are yet to go or going through this phase. “Cheers!”to the people who have been through this phase and came out successfully.