The Game Widow

gamewidowGames are meant to be a fun activity that you can consider a hobby but for certain people they can be the ultimate make or break point in a relationship. I’m not going say I’m one of them because I’m not, I bought my partner a Xbox for Christmas last year, so if I was to whinge I suppose I only have myself to blame.

For me it’s the highly anticipated games that get me wound up, hours until their release there is a countdown, shops open at midnight to accommodate the hard-core gamers who consider themselves cool if they go to the shop dressed up as a goblin warrior. I can’t cope with the hyped up release, the limited edition packages with pictures of real game play, the free t-shirt.

It’s not like I hate all games, I’m not that miserable. In fact I have a slight addiction to a farm game called hay day, as well as candy crush, angry birds, any app that I can get on my iPhone 5. I also have had an Xbox myself and used to play Halo and Rollercoaster Tycoon for hours and hours, even faking that I was ill so I could stay off school to play. But I’m 25 now, the addiction has calmed down a bit, but why doesn’t a man get less attached when he gets older?

Recently when Grand Theft Auto 5 was released it was like a plague had hit the planet. 5 years of build up awaiting the release of this game obviously made it very anticipated and exciting for fans of the game. On the release day there were 2 million mentions of GTA5 on twitter alone, that is insane. Battlefield 4 and every Fifa game is the same, how many football and shooting games can they get excited about? I know a lot of games already have their established players; World of Warcraft is way out of my league. My partner even said he’s scared to play it because he can see how addictive it could be. In October 2012 there was an estimated 10 million online players worldwide. I don’t think a game has ever been that popular; these are the game widows I really feel for. I’ve heard marriages have ended because of WOW.

Although I’ve not been on them myself I know there are a plethora of computer game widows websites where you can go and be consoled by others in the exact position as yourself and slag off the game your other half is playing. Academics can see that it is a genuine relationship concern, Wendy Kays wrote the ‘Game Widow’ as an attempt to bridge the gap between the gamer and the person who seeks a way to reclaim how their relationship was before an addiction to gaming.

All you need to know is that if a hobby starts turning into an addiction that affects your relationship, you are well within your rights to put a hammer through the Xbox, (not really just hide the game).