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Friday the 13th

Friday the 13th. Unlucky for some, or so they say. You may have noticed, if you are of the superstitious kind that last Friday happened to be the 13th, and not just that, but a full moon too; a double whammy sure to throw any superstition following individual into a fit of terror. But the [...]

How do you spell love? T-R-U-S-T

Trust.  A little word with so much power.  Having had your trust betrayed and abused, how do you ever move on from that, and be happy in another relationship?  And does that clarity equal intelligent self-preservation, or self-sabotage? Anyone who’s ever been hurt can relate to nerves and anxiety that accompany the start of something [...]

I want to believe in love again

When an animal is injured it hides away to lick its wounds and recover. The difference is, unless mortally wounded an animal will come back into the world. Many humans don’t. When you get played, you can’t help but look back, analyse and overthink. How did I read him so wrongly? How did I misread [...]

The great first date

So you’ve agreed to meet up with a guy you’ve been emailing through a dating site. Up until the date itself there’s no real pressure. It’s just 2 people communicating electronically with no idea of whether or not they will actually get on. Then the day comes, as does the realisation your jeans are baggier [...]

Acceptance + freedom = happiness

The moment you realise you are completely free of all feeling toward your ex is an amazing moment. After splitting most people realise their ex wasn’t right for them, but still hurt when they dwell on it. The broken plans, broken home, feeling of having to start over – again. Although you stopped your rose-tinted [...]

Nissen’s Dating Rules

  I’ve not had the most sparkling, sizzling, smooch-filled, sociable, spine-tingling of summers. But it was what it was, and as much as I love hot weather, the calm dependability of autumn will be refreshing. I don’t expect to spend my autumn with anyone. I’ve come to understand, at a bone-marrow level, that Mr Mindfuck [...]

Trying to move on…

Tonight I have a hangover.  Not alcohol-related, but just as annoying, just as ‘poor me’ inducing and just as difficult to shake off. But my hangover is my bastard ex. The sad thing is, I never really knew him. And so anything he does now is no surprise, because I have absolutely no idea what [...]

Would you, ummm…..

… Make me come? Whether getting back in the saddle after years, or weeks, getting pelvic with a new person is always a nerve-wracking experience, hence the amount of alcohol often consumed. I’m not talking about holiday romances or hazy hook-ups, but about new sex with someone you think ‘maybe….’ about. I could fill a [...]

To (f)B or not to (f)B…..

 is the question.  Or more specifically, how soon is too soon to FB? One of my beautiful friends recently asked me this, and I found I had no answer. Very unlike me. But it’s a good question, due to both security and the speed of openness in any budding relationship. We know that we should [...]

Broken wings = broken heartstrings?

“Beautiful mind, tortured soul.  I do have to figure out why I am attracted to these broken birds”.   So said the amazing Katy Perry in last month’s Vogue.  Preaching to the choir sister; I too am asking myself this.  After 3 attempts at relationships with issue-ridden overgrown man-child(ren), I’m wondering why I keep going for [...]

Epiphany

It’s amazing, the things you miss. The little red 1 on your Facebook page, your phone lighting up multiple times during the day with another sweet nothing text, the photo of you two that fills the screen when he calls. It’s also amazing when you realise that you don’t actually mis HIM. The break-up break-through [...]

SATC – the ultimate relationship manual

I’m distracting myself from my collapsed world by watching SATC 2 – the movie.  Despite the stereotypes of the Middle East and the underdevelopment of Samantha and Miranda’s characters, it’s not a bad film.  A disappointment in the cinema after waiting for it excitedly, but a nice dash of colourful escapism to push back the [...]

The first cut is the deepest

There are 5 words I hate.  “What are we doing here?” or its closely related cousin, “What do you want from me?” They put all the pressure on me to make the decision.  And make me want to respond in my sassiest tone, “If you don’t know, how can I answer that definitively?!  ‘We’ applies [...]

Determined or demanding?

Everyone is unique, everyone is individual. Everyone has little quirks and habits which are annoying to others.  There are some things which are an absolute deal breaker for me. The guy who grunts when aroused, the guy with the weird knuckles, the guy who is punctually challenged, the guy who is vertically challenged, the guy [...]

Happy Valentine’s Day To Me

Valentines – possibly the most emotive word in the English language?  The day and night when our romantic expectations rachet up so high it’s a wonder the world continues to function. Whether single, committed or curious, it has a lot of power and pressure.  But I’m not worried about it… because I’ve got Valentine’s locked [...]

Suits You, Sir?

Unlike baseball caps and low slung trousers, there are some looks that never go out of fashion. However a classic and timeless suit can easily be ruined by a few style crimes that could warrant the introduction of a real life fashion police or sabotage that perfect first date or your dream job interview So [...]

Love Is A Four Letter Word

Not just literally, that is. So far as I’m concerned, also in the sense that it’s not one I either want or need to hear about. Sometimes it seems there are two kinds of people out there: those who spend their lives bouncing from one relationship to another and those who are happy without the [...]

At What Age Can We Stop Calling Someone A Boyfriend?

The process used to be boyfriend, fiancé, husband. It was much simpler in some ways – sometimes families arranged the match (both good and bad) and you were encouraged to uphold your vows by society.  But nowadays it seems to be boyfriend (s), fiancé, husband, rebound, toyboy, partner. Marriage just doesn’t seem to mean forever [...]

I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For

Bono’s classic hits just the right note for my thoughts tonight.  Whilst I may not have run through the fields or scaled these city walls to be with a guy, travelling on the tube to Outer Mongolia (or Zone 6, whichever you prefer) is an indication that I am willing to put in some effort [...]

Right Man For The Job

Applying for a job is similar to searching for that perfect man. You spend hours hunting for the one that excites you, and ask every step of the way if you see a future between the two of you. But while companies and potential employers grill you more than a George Foreman about your past [...]