Laws to a Healthy Happy Sex Life
Let’s just talk about sex shall we? All the ins and outs, and celebrate how lucky we are as a species to have the ability to make another scream the house down in delight. What a gift, for which we owe Mother Nature many thanks.
But as most of us are aware there is no such thing as a free lunch. Similar to everything else worth enjoying in life, sex should also be treated with great caution.
Through my experiences, I have come up with a few simple rules to live by in relation to sex and all things surrounding it:
1. Always play it safe
I don’t need to go in to all the details of sexually transmitted diseases and accidental pregnancies. However it is always important to remember that this is first rule of having a healthy and happy sex life.
No matter who the person is, how incredibly hot they are or how impatient you are to get on them- always make sure you are protecting yourself and them. Have respect for yourself and your partner and play it safe.
These days there are condoms of all shapes and sizes, with a variety of lubes and textures to satisfy everyone and anyone.
If you doing someone regularly or going into an exclusive relationship make sure you both have an STI test before losing the condom. Yes that’s a very daunting thought, but it’s so worth it to be able to screw said persons brains out completely comfortable knowing that you aren’t catching chlamydia or any other nasty.
2. Be considerate
To some, sex is the ultimate way of saying “I love you”, for others “I want you”. However whether sex is a response to crazy emotions of love or lust is irrelevant, the facts remain the same that the act itself, giving your body to another and experiencing theirs in return is magical both physically and mentally.
When two people sleep together, whether opposite sex partners or same sex, your brain works overtime and a variety of chemicals and hormones are released both during and after. This cocktail of happy hormones works to give you that happy, fuzzy and satisfied feeling after orgasm and have been proven to help form a bond between two people.
Every person is individual, not everyone’s biology is the same and therefore some peoples cocktail of hormones is going to be stronger and more intoxicating than others.
In a scenario where you have slept with someone, and while you may have enjoyed it at the time, you aren’t really feeling it afterwards; always consider that the other person may be more in to you than you are them when you handle the situation.
Or on the opposite end of the spectrum you may now be besotted, planning what you’re going to do them next time you get their kit off and then what your children might be called 5 years down the line.
There is no way of predicting or understanding exactly how your partners hormones have reacted to being with you, if there were relationships would be boring, but take in to account the way that person may be feeling for you. At all costs avoid it getting messy and painful for everyone involved.
3. Don’t screw your friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend
4. Don’t screw your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s friends
No explanation necessary.
So there you have it, as along as you’re playing it safe, being considerate and not doing someone you really shouldn’t be, I say:
sleep with whomever you want, whenever you want and most importantly enjoy it!
Forget the titles like “slag” or “manwhore” and all the negative energy that surrounds them. So long as you are respecting yourself, your body and others there is no way any of those labels can relate to you.
Go out and meet people, have a flirt, have a snog, enjoy sex for lust and if you’re really lucky for love! Experiment and find something new that you like, and maybe something new that you don’t! Sex is an open act of endless experiences; no two shags have to be the same! Enjoy yourselves and scream the roof down.
