The Forgotten Date

Like a lot of people, I love to celebrate special occasions with as much effort as possible. I’m talking decorations, cards, presents, cake, friends, family, fireworks, balloons and champagne, but it doesn’t stop there; my love of all things joyous can be adapted to any occasion and I go the whole hog. I can’t let a special day go by without at least mass get togethers, personalised invitations, a vast array of food and matching table wear, much to the annoyance of my other half who would do anything for a quiet life.

However, the one type of occasion that has never warranted a big bash in my social circle is anniversaries. Don’t get me wrong, there have been many anniversaries to celebrate, it’s just that it seems to be a more private affair amongst my friends. Have you ever celebrated your 1 month dating anniversary? If yes, did it feel a bit daft and just something to share with your other half? Do you think it is just women who go all mushy buying cards and silly gifts for their partners who probably think they’re all a bit bunny boiler-ish when you have only been dating for 4 weeks and do men even remember the date in the first place? Does it matter to you that you mark the occasion, or is it just another day in your diary?

It would seem rather odd to have your mates and family around for a shindig to celebrate anything shorter than a 1 year anniversary, and even that’s seems a bit strange when you’re just dating, plus I don’t know about you but I would feel a bit embarrassed and his mates would give him so much stick I’m sure he’d never agree to it. It’s almost juvenile to celebrate such an short period in the grand scheme of relationships, but I think it’s still important to mark the occasion.

Obviously it’s more common that couples celebrate their wedding anniversaries, especially when you get to big numbers i.e.10, 15 and 25 years but does that mean we have to get married to truly mark the occasion of finding your soul mate and for others to recognise it? It is lovely to see couples who have been together for years, surrounded by children and grandchildren looking as much in love with each other as they were when celebrating their one month courtship. I wonder if they took the time to celebrate the earlier stages of their bond and if that’s an integral part of their formula for a long lasting, happy relationship? I kind of hope so.

So it seems fitting that you really have to put the effort in and rack up the years before your anniversary becomes big enough to call an event coordinator. What an incentive, here’s to 2 years in June!