“Hey Conor, it’s GiGi. I just thought that I hadn’t heard from you, and I mean how stupid is it that a girl has to wait for a guy’s call anyway, right? ‘Cause we’re all equal, right? More than equal. More women are accepted into law school now than men. Call me. Oh this is GiGi, call me”…
I nearly choked on my wine, watching He’s Just Not That Into You with the girls on a Saturday evening. We all asked the question afterwards, if Ginnifer Goodwin’s character actually could possibly get any worse. She’s a single woman who screams desperation in her attempts to attain a boyfriend, continually misreading mundane actions and comments from potential dates, and working herself into a state when a guy did not call her.
I wondered if women like that were on the rise, where they obsessed over the ‘signs’ their date gave out and haunted the corner of house parties, snacking on peanuts, watching out for a man standing on his own.
We all then asked if we had ever called a guy instead of waiting or obsessing to the point where we turned up at a guys favourite bar when he did not end up calling us, all answers were no, thank God!
It is annoying when a guy says, “I will give you a call”, after a date but then, well, there is actually no call but instead of obsessing about it just take it as a sign that he actually isn’t that into you. The film itself pointed everything as black and white, if a guy likes you that much then he will call you. Gigi’s character forgot that not all first dates were going to turn into a second one, and although you may really like a guy he may not entirely find that he has things in common with you or be as attracted to you as you are to him. It is not a bad reflection on how you presented yourself, but more so about what works for you. Not all of your dates are going to be successful and lead you to that so called Mr. Perfect. It is more about enjoying yourself, getting out of that corner in the house party and having a good time and believing in Mr. He Will Make An Effort. A man who is going to put an equal amount of effort into calling you, taking you out and arranging days to meet up.
Until then, a note to all the single ladies, do not turn into a ‘GIGI’. She will say, “We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk it means he likes you” and “Maybe his grandma died or maybe he lost my number or is out of town or got hit by a cab…” when he does not call. You definitely do not want to be her.