Posts Tagged ‘dealing with a break-up’

The Revelation

As you darling readers may know, I had a break up recently. Well two months ago, which for some of you is a millennia, for some is almost like the blink of an eye. For me it’s still very very recent and really quite raw. He left to work on cruise ships for six months [...]

The Men That Slipped The Net

My one is a guy I went out with when I was seventeen. Of course, all of you normal people who aren’t embroiled in the emotional turmoil of it all can turn and say to me, ‘But you were only a kid.’ I know that. But the two years we had together are still yet [...]

Will It Work This Time?

Some relationships fizzle out after time, some last for many years and some are on and off for a while. For the ones that end and are over and done with, you just have to move on and hope that next time you get it right. For the ones that last for years these are [...]

Do You Know When To Quit?

We all know how hard it is to break a habit. Whether it’s giving up smoking, cutting out alcohol or trying to stop biting your nails; quitting something you enjoy doing or see as a comfort can be the hardest thing in the world.   How similar this problem is when it comes to breaking [...]

Ex-pensive Break Overs: The real cost of being dumped

Crying over your meal for one, watching Pretty Woman on repeat, and listening to Leona Lewis’s ‘Bleeding Love’ until your ears may actually bleed; we’ve all been there when it comes to dealing with a break up. However, the emotional cost isn’t the darkest phase that women should fear, as a new study reveals that [...]

In Her Shoes

It is probably easier said than done to, “get over it” or to “not think about it too much”. When it is a friend who is going through a bad break up or who has a few guy issues, we often wave it away, forgetting how hard it was when we were in a similar [...]

Losing Control

Having control always seemed to be the way things were for me, I would always do well when it came to my education, any job I took on would be successfully completed and if I wanted to own that pair of killer high heels it would be so. Nothing seemed out of my reach that [...]

All or Nothing?

One of the hardest things about breaking up is that not only are you losing a partner, but you’re also losing a friend.  A tough decision to make is whether to completely cut ties with this person or to try and remain friends. I’ve always been told that attempting to be friends with an ex [...]

The Kids Are Alright

When it comes to other people’s relationships, I may as well have my own little advice column on I find it pretty easy to surmise whether or not people are attracted to each other, or if the relationship they are in is going to last. So I was not surprised this week, when the [...]

How Could He Do This To Me?

Why did he do it? Was it because of me? Have I gained weight? Is it because she is prettier than me?   These are just some of the questions that we ask ourselves after being betrayed by somebody that we love/loved. You never feel worse about yourself than after discovering that a partner has [...]

Got To Be Cruel To Be Kind?

‘Oh dear god just get a grip and get over it!’   As soon as these words left my mouth I could feel all my girlfriends stare at me in absolute horror. In hindsight it probably wasn’t the nicest thing to say to a friend who was struggling to come to terms with a bad [...]


You land with a hard thud, the blue birds, butterflies, white bunnies and red love hearts disappear. No longer seeing the object of your affection with rose-tinted glasses, you now face the bleak reality.   Falling for a guy you once believed to be perfect, yet eventually realising he is exactly like your ex was [...]

Question: Online Dating…………, Mine Field or Head Start?

I count myself to be one of the ‘lucky ones’ who bagged a long term partner thanks to online dating. So we met via a well-known online dating service, I had been a member for just a month and he for….well lets say ‘some time’. As an active member of the armed forces, he is [...]

The Ex

Seriously why don’t they just disappear, self combust or at least have the decency to move? Was it SATC’s Carrie who thought there should be an ‘island of ex boyfriends’? Now there is a humane course of action to wholeheartedly support. Note to self, ring Branson he must have somewhere to spare. This may not [...]

Forever Friends?

Is it simply refusing to let go or is remaining friends with the ex the height of maturity? Does it secretly mean one or both of you are hoping to rekindle the romance? Or possibly just keeping a one timelover on the back burner for the inevitable sex drought ahead? Or am I just a [...]

The first cut is the deepest?

They say, well Rod Stewart does in the Cat Stevens song I love, that “the first cut is the deepest.” They, well Rod, are of course talking about love and the pain such magic brings when it all comes crashing down around our ears, leaving our hopes in tatters and our hearts torn – sometimes [...]

Hurt me any day!

  Thinking back to when I was a kid relationships were easy, if you liked a girl you asked her to go out with you and if it wasn’t working you got your mate to dump her yet for some reason as you get older having a relationship becomes far more complex and if you [...]

The one after the one.

What happens if you are the one, well, after the one? Is that statement nonsensical? Does it cancel one of you out? Or does it actually negate the concept of ‘the soulmate’ completely? Modern relationships are, on the whole, no longer born from necessity or tradition. Rather we move along a spectrum, from first dates [...]

Mr Right? Or Mr Right Enough?

Have you ever compared your current squeeze to the man you dreamt about as a girl? Draped in your mother’s crisp white net curtains, parading as the blushing bride and fantasising about him worshipping you wildly…   So what happened to that dream?   Did you find him? Lose him? Keep him? Have you settled [...]

Mind The Gap

The underground system in London has never been known for its comfortable environment and today was no exception. After a three hour delay, a five hour flight, with severe panda eyes and having eaten only a tomato and cheese toasted croissant washed down with a latte, here I was, finally on the tube, anxious to [...]